obscenities
And what country are you going to upset today?
Although the Palace des Nations or the 'United Nations' in English, is in Geneva, Switzerland, it is on UN land, and therefore is a region unto itself. In 1919, at the end of World War 1, Switzerland, because it was a neutral country, was chosen as the site for the UN's forerunner, the League of Nations. The UN continued the League's work and philosophy of promoting peace and disarmament with its inauguration in 1945, at the end of WW2, and occupies the original League of Nations building.
It is a remarkable organisation and the buildings and grounds and their respective artworks reflect the ideals and stories of the organisation. I felt privileged to enter the room where world peace, disarmament and human rights are discussed and determined. I would rather stand here, in the room where words of peace are forged into action, than on any ground where acts of war are written in blood. On the eve of Armistice Day, November 11, when many nations remember their war dead, I am acutely aware that the United Nations is as important now, as it ever was, in securing world peace.
Our tour guide was a passionate and knowledgeable UN worker, fluent in at least three languages, and the group was was comprised of a host of people from different nations. I was able to enjoy spotting the cultural stereotypes in our group and sharing the humour of the experience with my husband and daughter who I travel with.
There were two Indian men who asked the guide complex questions at every stop along the way, a Middle Eastern Woman constantly coddling her bored son, a Chinese man who kept videoing, after being told to stop, a Japanese student photographing the cloak room, the stairs and anything else that came into view, two Northern Europeans complete with back packs, just in case we were locked in overnight. But there were no Swiss on our tour, and we discovered none of the Swiss we knew had ever been to the Palace des Nations. I put this down to Switzerland only joining the UN in 2002 and the fact that you don't need walking sticks to go there. The Swiss would rather spend their time climbing mountains. Or is that another cultural stereotype?
I had my picture taken with one of the few flags I am happy to wave; the UN flag, and looked forward to posting it with an accompanying write-up. But that was not to be so.
After a day of storytelling at an International school in Geneva, the next day, our family met up at the train station for the five hour return journey to the German speaking part of Switzerland. Then one of our backpacks was stolen.
With all the gear to choose from: Mama Bear's instrument of mass entertainment, the mandolin, her bag of Australian puppets and ribbons, Baby Bear's pack with her homework in it and Papa Bear's pack with ipad and cameras, the one chosen by our lightning thief was not the one with a platypus in it, or homework.
We were all in a state of shock! After that we boarded the train and the following process took place: 'If only I ... ' 'bastards ...' 'organized crime ...' 'What have we learned?' 'We are lucky, we have each other and all we have had stolen are things, not our homes, our homelands, or our lives.' Later; 'it's not your fault.'
Revenge was a feeling expressed by our daughter. She wanted all the things that had been stolen to hurt the thief. Vengeance! Punishment! Understandable thoughts from a victim's perspective, but are they effective as a deterrent to future criminal acts? I remembered our visit to the UN and the discussion about the punitive measures imposed on Germany after World War 1 as a causal factor of the second world war? What role does vengeance play in the perpetuation of conflict? What would the UN do to address a nation who perpetrated a criminal act on another?
In our situation we didn't see the thief/thieves, but have it on good authority that they are members of an organised criminal group of a specific cultural identity, operating in the area.
When a violation of a person's person or property takes place and the nationality or culture is known of the perpetrator, generalizations are often made by others. These beliefs may be adopted wholeheartedly: All Bombalasiens are thieves, all Punvarion men are sleazy, all Gungalese are lazy. However, it is very rare for qualities to be generalized and wholeheartedly adopted by others. All Pelintians are good cooks, all Thepils are great hosts, the Umpwils are a gentle people. For every generalization there is a specific incident to challenge it. Some people rationalise their prejudices with 'I'm talking about the ones from the North, the South, who moved to our country, who come by ...'
When my eldest daughter was in high school, it was pointed out to her that her name was German and Hitler was German and he was a Nazi and Germans are Nazis, and therefore she was a Nazi. Ludicrous reasoning, to be dismissed by any intelligent human being. However, racist, intolerant and ignorant human beings embrace such propaganda, and their misinformed and often hateful ideas can infect others. Immediate action must be taken to address the perniciousness of racism and bigotry so that we do not perpetuate a climate where hate crimes thrive.
And what if there is a recognized problem with particular cultures and criminal activities? For a start we can't say that all 20 million, 100 million, 1 billion, people of that same nation or culture as the perpetrator, are the same as the perpetrator. Generalizing on our own experience is as bad as generalizing on the experience of others.
I remember my father's hatred of a particular race of people because his father had gone to war in 1914, and fought against them, in their country. A sixteen year old illiterate boy from Australia going to a war he knew nothing about in a country he knew nothing about. Returning to Australia with his stories to tell to his children, who in turn told them to their children. My father had never met a representative of the culture he so maligned, but spoke with authority because he believed his father's truths. In the same way we can pass on our culture, we can propagate a cultural mythology.
In telling people about the theft of our backpack we have encountered both blame for allowing it to happen by not being more vigilant, and outrage that has taken the form of justifying the call for border control, stopping immigration and other xenophobic responses, because of the association of particular races and crime. But the answer is not one of exclusion, gated communities, stronger borders, not trusting anyone. In fact it is the opposite.
We need to be more openly human and have empathy and compassion for others. If we want to prevent crime we must prevent poverty and the circumstances that push people into becoming criminals. We must educate ourselves about the perspective of others and the choices they perceive they have. This does not mean we condone criminal behaviour, but the most effective way to fight crime is with compassion.
We must help people to become the best human beings they can be, by enabling them to live a productive life, utilising all their skills and knowledge. Quality education, housing and employment for everyone in homelands that are not beseiged by war and famine is everyone's right. Quite simply, each one of us must embody the principles of the Declaration of Human Rights and represent the philosophy of the United Nations in our lives.
Our world view has offered us comfort and a rationalisation for what has happened, and now the process of rebuilding takes place; replacing what was stolen. After all, a photographer needs a camera to be a photographer. But I'm lucky, as I'm a storyteller, and a story is all I need. Now I have one.
No-one wants to defend a dictator, a tyrant, a purveyor of misery and corruption, a murderer. And here I am saying that Gaddafi should not have been assassinated, because that, I think, was what happened. He received the ultimate punishment. Whether it was inflicted by the people who revolted against his tyranny or agents from another country, does not matter. The issue is the sanctioning of murder, by the State or the People.
'He deserved to die,' is the sentiment expressed by many people throughout the world. I ask; whatever happened to the Courts of International Justice, where people are tried for their crimes? These offer the opportunity for victims and their advocates to also tell their stories, and do not pave the way for people who have perpetrated crimes against humanity to be viewed as martyrs, as can happen when a 'leader' is assassinated. Have we lost faith in our systems of justice?
My teenage daughter confessed that she witnessed Gaddafi die on Youtube! I'm horrified. She assured me that there were 'tons of films of him and everyone's watching them.' This doesn't make me feel any better.
I explain to her about the role of International Courts in exacting justice. But she expresses the same sentiment as many others; that he was a murderer and therefore deserves to die. It is at this point that I realise how much work there is to do in teaching our children how to negotiate a truly peaceful and just world.
This takes time and a commitment to the principles of humanity, unlike assassinations which are often hailed as swift justice, because they are decisive, quick acts. Acts of murder, though they are never defined as such.
In the same way I could not sanction the assassination of Osama bin Laden, I cannot sanction the assassination of Muammar Gaddafi. Because I do not believe dictators and terrorists should be murdered by the State does not mean that I condone their actions. They should be brought to justice. That is the sentiment I want to see spread across the globe, not reliving the experience of the Roman colosseum spectatcles, and witnessing criminals die a gory death right before your eyes.
Unfortunately the ongoing struggles for peace and justice cannot be reduced to a 15 minute youtube clip, so we will just have to continue to do our Peace work without it going viral.
When I was a kid we had rice two different ways. Baked or Boiled. Both were desserts.
To make baked rice, a cup of rice and a cup of sugar were put in a particular pudding dish. The same one was always used. Milk was then poured into the dish until it was three quarters full and then a fork was used to mix the ingredients. After that lashings of nutmeg were sprinkled over the top and it was placed in a moderate oven to cook. An hour or so later it was removed and left to cool. Straight after the main meal it was spooned into individual bowls and served up as pudding, usually with preserved peaches as an accompaniment. (Dessert wasn't a word that was used in our household. It was always pudding, even if the dessert was not a pudding as such.) The nutmeg formed a flaky, dark covering and added nothing to the pudding's appearance or taste. I believe it's primary purpose was to keep the top of the rice from drying out.
The latter rice dish was literally named. Boiled rice. When cooked it was served individually, with the requisite preserved peaches, and the desired amount of sugar and milk was added.
Imagine my surprise when I discovered that rice could be a savoury food. An excursion to a Chinese restaurant where I discovered fried rice, was the beginning of my food education. Although this mainly occurred after I left home, there were some exceptions.
I was eleven when a cousin from the city came to stay with us and she cooked spaghetti bolognese. Up until this time I believed that spaghetti came from a can and you ate it on toast. But she had a packet of spaghetti, which was long, hard and dry which she cooked in boiling water. It was nothing like the spaghetti in a can. It wasn't until after I left home that I learned about the many varieties of pasta.
In the first few years of living in the city, I learned many things about food and its preparation. Some of these insights I have listed here:
There are more herbs than parsley and mint, and parsley can be more than a garnish. Tabbouleh being the embodiment of this discovery.
There are more than two types of salad; coleslaw and the layered iceberg lettuce salad with boiled eggs, grated cheese and carrots and tomatoes.
Boiling vegetable into submission or baking them to a crisp are not the only ways of cooking them, in fact they're the least desirable ways of preparing vegetables.
Meat does not have to be served at every meal, or indeed any meal. There are people who are vegetarians!
There are alternatives to cooking with lard or rendered down fat, that are much healthier for your body.
Capsicums and chillies exist. Just because I hadn't seen them didn't mean they weren't there.
Pineapples and bananas aren't the only tropical fruits.
Baked beans and green beans aren't the only beans.
Garlic is not a sausage, like devon, but a vegetable that you can add to nearly any savoury meal.
Last night I didn't sleep very well. Was it because I was still thinking about the murder of Troy Davis by the State, or was it the moth that kept flying up against the window and making a sound as it's body hit the glass?
The moth has gone this morning and so has Troy Davis. But the memories of both are still present. The moth, through it's intermittent attempts to escape was able to disturb my sleep. Had it been tireless in it's pursuit of freedom, I may have been stirred to action and assisted it.
The plight of Troy Davis stirred many people to action to save his life. They banged relentlessly on the window, and the oxymoronically named 'justice system' was disturbed, but not enough to get up and open the window.
So what have I learned in the light of a new day? The most powerless of creatures can effect change; even if it only takes the form of making others aware of it's presence and keeping them awake. Troy Davis's death was not in vain. Supporters from all over the world rallied to demand his reprieve and even thought they were not successful, they will not go away. More and more will bang on the window until it is either opened or smashed. Either way the United States must abolish capital punishment for the most reprehensible, draconian expression of moral absolutism that it is.
I am not the perfect parent: they are a myth, and a good thing to. Fancy being the child of someone who was 'perfection embodied.' The expectations to emulate them would be enough to drive that kid to act out all over the place. So my kids have been extremely lucky to have such a flawed person as myself, to be their parent. One of these not so fatal flaws, which I'm sure my neighbours can testify to, is that I'm a yeller. If I wanted my kids to come inside, and they were within a hundred metre radius, they'd hear me. And arguments, particularly with my youngest who is also a yeller, they'd hear those too.
But what happens when I'm with quiet people. Am I still loud? I am strongly influenced by my environment and who I share it with. My private life and public life are different.
In my public life I am a storyteller, and work in classrooms, community venues and public spaces with intimate through to assembly sized audiences. I may be giving a concert, speaking with a child or teaching a rhyme to parents and teachers. I am acutely aware of the composition of my audience and the appropriateness of my presentation style. Loud noises and voices can frighten very young children. A level of trust must be established in the relationship between myself and my audience. I am not going to belittle, betray or berate them. As the storyteller or workshop presenter, I am in a powerful position and do not want to abuse that power through an imposing yell. Instead, I want to raise up my audience so that they feel empowered.
So what do I do when I see other professionals in their capacity as teachers yelling at kids?
The other day I was at a school with a class, first thing in the morning. The substitute teacher, who knew the kids, began by raising her voice loudly to say that she would be watching their behaviour, while the storytelling was happening. This soon escalated into a yell as one of the kids had not followed her direction to turn around and he was sent out of the classroom. I popped my head out the door to ask the boy if he would come back in as I knew he liked the stories, but he refused and remained there. I began storytelling and he, outside the door near the window looked in, and listened to the best of his ability.
It's not the first time I have been in a classroom and watched while a teacher yelled at the kids and then witnessed particular children being told to leave the room. And each time I thought, 'you need to hear the story I'm going to tell.' As I'm a guest, I don't have much right to intervene, and I'm conscious of not undermining a teacher's 'authority.' Although I think they've usually lost it when they start yelling at the kids. I also don't want to be seen as colluding in either the child's 'bad behaviour' or the teacher's negative response to it. But I do look at the kids being yelled at and wonder how many adults will yell at you today?
It is unfortunate that some teachers, for whatever reason, yell at their students. And if the kids yell back at them, then they are being rude and punished as a consequence. The word 'punishment' is rarely used in school communities, who adopt 'consequence' as the preferred term. Although conceptually different, I wonder whether the recipients of the 'consequence' perceive it as punishment? I believe there is no room for punishment, or the three B's (belittling, betraying or berating) in a learning environment.
As to exclusion, there is really only one valid reason to exclude a child from the classroom; protection. The child is excluded from a class to protect them from verbal or physical violence that could be inflicted upon them, or because he or she will inflict it on others.
If a child is a disruptive influence in the classroom, then this is a signal for some outside of class counselling. It is extremely difficult for a teacher to attend to the needs of every child particularly in overcrowded classrooms, and sometimes they perceive the exclusion of one or two 'troublemakers' as the easiest way to achieve an effective learning environment. However the kids that are routinely excluded from the classroom are often the kids most in need of positive role models, mentoring, learning support and love.
Of course all children deserve to have their lives blessed with adults who freely give these qualities. But for some children they don't get much at home or at school. While it is not the responsibility of teachers to fix the home life of a child, and there are teachers who give of their own time and resources beyond school time to improve the lives of their students, it is incumbent on them to be kind.
Really that's what it comes down to. Be kind to kids. Kindness doesn't raise your blood pressure, or alert the classrooms either side of you that you are angry with your students. (I've yet to hear a teacher yelling praise and encouragement to students, outside of the sports field). Yelling is an expression of anger, exasperation or power. Yelling abuse is a whole other issue and it goes without saying that verbal abuse enacted by either children or adults should not be condoned.
Here's a tip on how to not yell in the classroom: When you wish to express anger, disappointment or frustration with the behaviour of a student, address them as you would your colleague, another teacher. Communicate your feelings and information in a respectful and controlled way. Listen to their response and thank them for their participation in the conversation. If you feel that you will explode if you don't yell, then remove yourself from the classroom and get a punching bag for the staffroom.
I know that working with kids can be the most demanding and simultaneously rewarding work that anyone can do. Each time I am challenged by a child's behaviour I thank them for inspiring me to become a better human being. I've always believed that they will teach me more than I can ever impart to them. Next time you feel compelled to yell at kids, make it a yell of praise and affirmation.
©morgan schatz blackrose 2011
I have been accused of being a fuddy duddy when it comes to my concerns about the contemporary use of the English language by Australians. But I can't help it. When I hear a young person say cool as... I have to respond. A cucumber. And in turn they look at me perplexed, and I explain; finish your similes.
Of course they could be assuming that I am one of those people who finish other people's sentences, but I'm not. I have enough trouble finishing my own. Word retrieval can be a problem for me in some conversations, and perhaps that's the issue here. Unfortunately its reached epidemic proportions in the under 30's with their hot as... thick as... quick as... silly as... sick as... Do they know the traditional endings to these similes? Hades, a brick, lightning, a wheel, a dog. (I have included them for those who want the satisfaction of simile completion) Even if they don't, there's nothing to stop them creating their own. But to consistently leave them hanging there for the listener to fill in the dots is not an example of being laconic or adapting language to suit a specific purpose; its apathy. People who don't finish their similes don't care about choosing the right words to express their meaning. This trend is an indicator of a limited vocabulary.
Generally speaking our vocabulary increases throughout our lives, most significantly from our early months through to early teens. As well as becoming familiar with existing words in the English language, new words are also being created and we incorporate them in our speech; language is not static. A prime example are those that express the functions and relationship we have with internet technology. As widespread users of internet technology young people embrace vocabulary expansion in this field to suit their purpose. The language of texting is an example of adapting language in this way.
However, many internet technology words are just given an additional meaning i.e. mouse (signifying both an animal and a computer component). It is the meaning of the words that change. This is also the case for other words in popular use in the English language. A prime example is the word 'gay'. This was once a word to sing about. Firstly by a generation of people who were happy, followed by a generation of people who were homosexual, but now young people use the term 'gay' as an insult. If something is 'gay' it is stupid.
Historically it is not a new phenomenon for words to change their meaning. But is the penchant for verbifying a new one? When you take a perfectly good noun and cast it as a verb; I'll action that. We gifted them. What's wrong with take action or give a gift? Too many words perhaps? Delete the existing verb and transform the noun into one. Who ideaed this? I know that there are words that are both nouns and verbs, depending on their context, for example 'run,' but I can't help but see the above words as pretentious. Perhaps I have only ever heard them spoken by middle managers in office jobs, not young people per se.
Continuing my concern about shrinking vocabularies, what follows after the void of the unfinished simile and the deletion of extraneous verbs is the overuse of particular words. This ultimately leads to their disempowerment. When I was a kid, we had a teacher who used to put overused words in 'cages,' so we weren't allowed to use them when writing or speaking in class. The two I remember were 'got' and 'nice.'
I think that English language's greatest expletive and it's conjugations should be in a cage. Not because 'fuck' is a 'bad' word. It's a word that has been so overused that it is at risk of being meaningless. How has this come to be? Quite simply a lack of vocabulary in the speaker. Fuck, fucked and fucking have become generic descriptions for just about anything. I lament the fact that they are no longer superlatives.
So come Saturday morning when my daughter sits down to breakfast and says fuck it's cold as... I will respond as any mother who cares about expanding her daughter's vocabulary would. I will take action. I will say ice. It's cold as ice, and then I will give her the Thesaurus to look for some more appropriate exclamations. Then I will tell her that in the old days parents would punish swearing children by washing their mouth's out with soap. And when she tells me that's gay. I'll respond by saying, no that's draconian. And when she says what's that? I'll explain the origins of the term. And when she says that she still thinks its gay, I'll say, who gives a... fig?